SEX AFFAIR (PART 1)

"What an amazing gift intercourse is. It is only natural that we crave it, enjoy it, and celebrate it. Sex is a life force. No wonder the body explodes in ecstasy when we couple. But it is more than body meeting body. Good sex, divinely ordained sex, is a blissful soul union. Sex makes a man feel loved"  -BISHOP T.D. JAKES

So, I uploaded the above screenshot on my DP (Display Picture) on BBM, and all hell was let lose. One of my very respected Senior colleagues engaged me in a drilling interview and reprimanded me nonstop. Among the things he said were: "Perez, you are a pastor, or better still, you have put out yourself to the world as a Minister of the gospel, there are things that must not be mentioned about you. You shouldn't be seen putting up pictures like this on the internet".

I was at a loss, and in fact, totally confused as to what he meant or what exactly he was talking about. I demanded to know exactly what his issue was with me uploading that screen-shot as my DP. and he said, "why on earth should you have a DP with sexual content?"

Friends, just in case you cannot read the words on the image above, I will reproduce it here for ease of reference. It reads:

"Holy wives don’t just speak in tongues, they make super meals, raise Godly kids, wear hot dresses, have mind blowing sex, bring out the king in their men and still make heaven".

I fired back. I insisted he told me why sex was such a big issue. I demanded to know whether as a married man, he does not have sex with his wife? in fact, one day, he was advising me on the need to get married. He told me that since he got married, his Christian life had stabilized. That as a bachelor, his major challenge was the sin of fornication which affected his daily Christian walk, but that now as a married man, it had become  a thing of the past. I told him that if sex wasn't that important, why did he get married and why was it such a challenge for him to stay off sex as a bachelor?

In defense, he stated that whether you were going to have a good sex or not depended solely on the man in the marriage, and that what's this big deal about sex? In a bid to further strengthen his claims that good sex is the sole responsibility of the man in the union, he  stated that if a man is sexually charged, all he needed to do was to grab an available soap and have good sex in the bathroom.

In reaction, I told him that he was antiquated and adverse to change. Africa and indeed the world have since moved on from that belief system. 'Non participatory sex is no sex at all'. If as a married couple, you have not stepped up your game sexually, you are missing. If all you know as a woman/wife is the missionary, I pity you, for soon, your husband will be another woman's.

My problem with our present day Christians is hypocrisy. We pretend a big deal. We like it, but we pretend and act as if it is disgusting. That to me, is no life at all. Until we realize that Christians are everyday people, with everyday challenges but that our only distinguishing attribute is in our approach to life and its challenges. Read  bellow what BISHOP T.D. JAKES has to say about sexual relation between man and wife:

"Sexual identity, sexual feelings, and the desire for sexual activity are woven into the fabric of our being, a strong, brightly coloured cord holding so many other threads together…

Our sexual relationship with our spouse often becomes the playing field where all other areas of our relationship either contribute to our closeness or deter the intimacy that the gift of sex is intended to promote…

Sex is the celebration of that original oneness from which two were divided from the whole and given permission to come back and visit their original construction through the awesome ritual of copulation…

Sex is a natural, wonderful gift from God to be cherished by a man and his wife. There is no need SHYING AWAY from this fact…"

If sex isn't that important, why did the Bible dwell so much on the topic of sex? In 1 Corinthians chapter 7: 3-5 where God through the Apostle Paul stated without mincing words that the husband must render unto the wife due benevolence; and likewise also the wife to her husband. The same scripture tells us that our bodies as men does not belong to us, the same applies to the women. To further express the importance of sex in marriage, the Bible instructed us to seek and obtain permission from our spouses before undergoing spiritual exercises, like fasting. This instruction applies both to the man and woman.

So, if you hide under the guise of holy wife and you only have sex once in a month or only for procreation purposes, I wish you well. When your marriage comes crumbling, we are here as legal practitioners to give you proper counseling with appropriate fees payable.

PS: There's a secret to a Joyful, Soulful and Holy Sex! It resides with the Manufacturer-God!